The Quest for the Quick Fix
How many times have we as women, looked for love in all the wrong places – in approval, in a relationship, or in a career? Our culture tricks us into believing that our spiritual hunger can be tamed by external things, so we get our “fix” from a fabulous pair of shoes, a prestigious job title or a cocktail. While seemingly harmless in small doses, constantly craving these things is a recipe for destruction.
In my own life, I’ve tried to find love through sex and wholeness in relationships, but I’ve come to realize that while they may curb your appetite, it doesn’t satisfy the hunger. After the mind-blowing sex, then what?
Is a 30-second orgasm enough to sustain your soul?
Somehow, we’ve fallen into a society that glorifies casual hookups and “friend with benefits” scenarios. Some women even celebrate their ability to tame men with their vagina power and enjoy sex with no strings attached. Men have been doing it for years. Right? Why should we be any different?
Yet, just beneath the surface there’s this emptiness and longing. You can’t quite put your finger on it, but it’s there waking you up in the middle of the night. It’s there at the bar with you as you drink yourself into numbness, and it’s there when you feel a piece of you walk out the door along with that hot guy you just had relations with.
Many of us have fed into a false image of what it means to be single, fabulous and independent. An image that says being YOU is not enough, so you need “someone” or “something” in order to feel complete. But nothing satisfies like God. He loves us through our bad hair days, weight fluctuations, pms outbursts and errors in judgment.
Here’s my fave poem by Marianne Williamson. May these words serve as a reminder of your worth as a woman.
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous,talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure about you. We are all meant to shine,as children do. We were born to manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.
So as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
